Say What You Need to Say.

Hello everyone, I hope you're weekend has been great so far. :-)

Last year in September, I did a post about judging people and labels (I'll link it below). It was a kind of heart-to-heart type post, and it ended up going over really well. Today, I have another one of those type of blog posts for you. I was inspired to do this by Cate from Perks of Being a Hipster (I'll link her post below).

I don't want to bring my personal life too much into this post, but I'm going to have to a little, so I'm sorry about that!

For the past 6 months, I've been friends with this guy, lets call him Joe for today. He was always really nice, and very fun to talk to, and we went to school together, so we saw a lot of each other. He ended up asking me out, and to be honest, I didn't want to. It wasn't that I disliked him, I just really wasn't ready for that. Ever since that moment, things had been tough. He would get mad at me for not being ready to date, and would have one of his other friends (we'll call her Julie), who really was quite scary and caused me several panic attacks, text me and manipulate me into dating him. So I did, I went out with him a few times, and things were okay. I still wasn't comfortable, but I was scared of Julie coming after me again, and Joe getting mad. Then came a night where I told Joe that I wasn't ready to be in a full-on relationship. Basically, he was furious, and so was Julie. I was so scared, but I stood my ground. That night, I lost a lot of respect and trust for Joe, as he had really disregarded how I might feel, and took everything out on me.

So ever since that moment, we were still been dating, but not seriously. He would still get mad occasionally, and he would lie a lot, and say mean things to me. So the other day, I told him that I didn't even want to date anymore. To make a long story short, he was upset, and Julie contacted me, eventually blaming me for if he commits suicide. I had had enough, and I stood up for myself against Julie, and then blocked her number.

That was only a few days ago, and I already feel a lot better.

A lot of us go through these sort of toxic relationships, whether they be friendships, or romantic relationships, and I don't think we always realize how much they're hurting us. Personally, I stayed with Joe for so long because I was worried he would never talk to me again, but I know some people stay because they like/love the other person so much, that they don't see how much they're being hurt by that other person.

I want you all to think, right now: what is preventing me from being happy? For me, that was Joe. I realized that I had to get out of the relationship. This is hard, but sometimes, if someone is making you really unhappy, you need to cut them out of your life. You need to just walk away. You don't deserve to be treated like crap, you deserve someone so much better.

Say what you need to say.

Is someone making you upset? Walk away. Are they criticizing you and the things you're passionate about? Tell them to cut it out. Is someone manipulating you? Leave, and don't look back.

I do believe in second chances, but there comes a time when you realize that things just aren't healthy, and you need to take care of yourself. You do you. Do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy.

You deserve to be happy, and it's so much better to say too much then never say enough. 

♡

I hope this post helped at least one person. If you guys ever need to talk, I am always available to do so. I love you all so much.

-Emily

Cate's Post: http://www.theperksofbeingahipster.com/2014/08/for-anyone-who-is-heartbroken-right-now.html

Judging and Labels: http://emilici0us.blogspot.com/2013/09/judging-and-labels.html